There’s been a lot of debate over on the Mslexia blog about how people should respond to trans partners. It seems to be split between those who think the trans person has a right to self-determination and that others should just accept it, and those who sympathise more with the partner.
I guess this is fairly typical when things happen with couples. When a couple breaks up (not that we are) their friends usually line up on one side or the other. A similar thing has happened with a number of couples we know – and often you can end up not seeing one partner at all. On the other hand, I know some couples who have managed to stay friends and even come to parties and dinners together as if they were still a couple.
Anyway, I’m really pleased that so many people have taken the time to comment on this thread and I hope it continues. Even hostile and critical comments are good in a way though at the time they are hard to read.
I’m also pleased some of you have taken the time to comment on my story ‘They Shoot Horses.’ What do you think of the title? It has been suggested that as a reference to the film it’s misleading, but I want to keep it because I think what I’m doing is a modern ‘take’ on the film.
If you haven’t seen it, ‘They Shoot Horses, Don’t They?’ is set in the ‘thirties when dance marathons were a kind of cruel lottery for desperate people. In my story reality TV is also a chance for the poor and desperate to break out of their situation – but it’s a kind of Kafkaesque scenario because the queue never comes to an end. They keep hoping it will, but there’s always another twist, always another corner to turn. Maybe I need to make that a bit clearer?